Divorce can be one of life’s most challenging and emotionally draining experiences. It is a time when emotions run high, and decision-making becomes even more crucial.
While it may be tempting to act on impulse or seek revenge, it is essential to approach your divorce with caution and make wise choices that will benefit you in the long run.
Ignoring your attorney’s advice
A common and significant mistake people make during a divorce is ignoring what their attorney says. Divorce is a serious matter, and when you are dealing with the court system, the judge expects the parties and attorneys to be prepared and knowledgeable.
Allowing emotions to drive decisions
Divorce often triggers intense emotions like anger, resentment, sadness and fear, all of which can cloud your judgment and lead to impulsive decisions.
It is critical not to let these emotions dictate important choices about child custody arrangements, property division or financial matters. Seek support from friends, family or a therapist who can offer objective feedback during this emotional time.
Speaking poorly of your spouse
While it may feel satisfying to say bad things about your spouse, especially if you blame them for the divorce, it is crucial not to vent about your spouse in public or on social media platforms.
Speaking poorly of the other party can hurt you case, as it can have negative consequences on child custody decisions, financial settlements and more.
In addition, badmouthing your spouse perpetuates hostility, which is not a positive approach to take during a divorce. Trying to foster healthy communication for future co-parenting, if children are involved, can help you case and allow you to make stronger arguments on matters involving custody.
Hiding assets
Attempting to hide assets from your spouse, your attorney or the court is not only unethical but also illegal in many jurisdictions.
Full disclosure of all assets (bank accounts, investments, properties, debts) is essential for an equitable division of property. Failing to disclose assets can lead to severe penalties and a loss of credibility in court.
Divorce is difficult for everyone, but knowing what not to do as you begin this process is critical because most people make at least one of these mistakes, and it tends to complicate matters.