Trying to raise children with your ex can be a challenging experience. Some people who go through divorce want to pretend like their ex doesn’t exist, but that’s not possible when you share children.
Finding ways to keep the communication in child custody situations calm is critical. These tips are a good starting point for trying to improve communication.
Put the child’s needs above the conflict
Emotions can run high after a divorce, but those emotions can’t transfer to the child custody situation. Children can thrive when their parents can communicate calmly because they’ll feel more stable if their parents are a parenting team. It’s always best to keep conversations focused on the children. This can include matters related to scheduling, school, health or other matters. Any conversations that veer away from
Set boundaries and use the right tools
Effective communication doesn’t mean constant contact. It means setting clear boundaries and choosing tools that make interactions easier. Many co-parents find success using parenting apps that streamline messages, calendars and document sharing. These platforms help keep the tone neutral and create a record of agreements, which can reduce misunderstandings and disputes.
As you’re establishing the parenting plan, consider the specific terms for communication that should be included. These should provide information that enables both parents to know exactly what’s allowed and expected. It should also include information about how disputes will be handled so there’s a plan in place if necessary. Working with someone who can assist with crafting the plan so it suits the needs of the children is beneficial.