Parents who share physical custody or parenting time typically also share legal custody or the right to make decisions about their children. Attempting to negotiate every new concern or need on demand can create opportunities for conflict between the parents, which is stressful for the children.
It is therefore typically beneficial to address predictable concerns in advance. Parents negotiating the terms of a custody arrangement may need to discuss their children’s educational needs. The three matters below are all common sources of disputes when co-parenting, making them important to address in advance.
1. Where the children attend school
Parents may need to commit to keeping their children in a specific school district, which can potentially affect the allocation of parenting time and which home serves as their primary residence. Having standards in place for scenarios where parents want to change the school that their children attend can facilitate a healthy conversation instead of a confrontation.
2. Academic expectations
Every child has different capabilities, and it is their parents’ job to ensure that they perform to the best of their ability. Divorcing or separating parents may need to discuss what they expect from their children regarding grades and attendance. That way, they can work cooperatively to support the children when they struggle instead of pointing their fingers at one another and fighting over the issue.
3. Extracurricular activities
As children mature, they often join clubs and sports. Parents may have different opinions on what activities are appropriate or when their children should participate. Clarifying those standards in advance can reduce opportunities for conflict.
Discussing numerous parenting matters and reaching agreements with the assistance of a skilled legal team can set separating parents up for co-parenting success. Parenting plans that address various future concerns can help prevent conflict and facilitate a peaceful family dynamic.